“There are years that ask questions and years that answer.”
– Zora Neale Hurston, Their eyes were watching God
“Almost all good writing begin with terrible first efforts. You need to start somewhere.”
– Anne Lamott
I have been back home for a few days now. It feels good. But I know it is time to move again. Head back elsewhere.
At least I have been inspired to write once more. Some ideas have sprouted in this little head of mine, after what seemed like years of the winter season.
March is flying by
Don’t really know where is going
Happiness, new friend and reunions
Disappointment abounds too.
March shocked the world and made it wait.
Life is making me wait.
Dear my 18-year old Self,
- Stop taking life so seriously. Actually, even now the 21-year old Self is yet to fully partake in this glorious piece of advice. I am trying. Seriously. Haha. But sometimes it is hard. I am trying though.
- Why are you angry?
- Laugh. Laughter will make everything better.
- I don’t know why you are sad. Actually, I probably do, it is just that it’s an amalgamation of everything that the right words do not really come out. Fear not though, everything is better now as our perspectives have changed.
- Taking risks is incredibly important in life. And I am immensely proud of you for taking the biggest one of your life so far: moving all the way to London, alone. Chances like this do not happen often and thank you for taking it. Your choice has made me, me.
- However, equally important as taking risks is listening to your heart. Listen to your heart. Always. Sometimes, the heart will be a coward. At other times, it will be brave. When it is fearful, cajole him.
- Stop giving importance opinions of others. They are not important. Listen to the brave heart. The coward heart will follow.
- The choices you make now seem as if everything in the world will depend upon it. The thing is, kid, life is looooooooooong. Life is a journey. There is so much to do in this big, wide world. Too much happening. There are immense opportunities. Stop looking at the world from the googles that your parents have raised you with.
- Again, smile and laugh.
- Find some like-minded friends. I know you love the friends you have now, but really, you aren’t happy. You have known them forever. They love you. You love them. But your interests have changed. They have changed. It’s okay. Move on. You will find that there are plenty more different people in the world. Some will understand you, others not so much.
- I love you, you know. Maman loves you. Papa loves you. Your sister loves you. And your brother loves you.
- You are a smart kid. Just have some more confidence in your abilities. In time you will learn that 90% of people are big talkers. Actually, you probably know that already? Yeah, so, they are big talkers. It does not mean that they are better than you. Remember, talk is cheap. You will learn this university, even though you will not really understand what this means at the time.
- Love yourself first. If you do not love yourself first, no one else is going to bother to respect and love you. Your body is your temple; look after it. You are only young once. Don’t be shy.
- The number of friends you make does not matter, the quality of the friends you make does. Just remember, quality trumps quantity.
- Talk. Human beings are social animals. We all in a society and to communicate we have to talk. And small talk is incredibly important in building rapport. Please, practice small talk with anybody and everybody, just to make my life easier.
- Let go of the past. The past does not exist anymore. It does not exist. Let go.
- Listen to Maman: don’t eat while watching TV or surfing the Internet.
- Stop consuming all that useless junk. You are wasting your money.
- Don’t quit Karate and swimming. Keep active; it will keep your mind healthy and active too.
- There is no “The One”. There will be many. Have fun. And don’t believe the movies. Keep your standards high.
- Don’t be so eager to believe everyone; nobody holds the answer to anything. Keep an open mind and ask questions.
- Keep to a budget. Value the money handed to you on a plate by your parents as one day you will have to earn it.
- Clothing choices matter. Learn how to dress well; it is a skill. Dress how you want to be addressed.
- Value family holidays more. Sometime in the near future, the family will change and “family holidays” will not be family holidays anymore. Everyone is growing up.
- Read and write more of what you love. Academics are just one aspect of you.
- Be a good example to your sister; she’s growing up too.
The lovely dark clouds above
The happy fools below
Talking and talking, senseless
The lovely dark clouds above
Dreamers are mocked as impractical. The truth is they are the most practical, as their innovations lead to progress and a better way of life for all of us.
– Robin Sharma
I want to go shopping. I want to buy more beautiful clothes.
My mum did say this was going to happen.
When I boasted loudly to everyone who would lend an ear, “my wardrobe consists of less-than-50-items of clothing”, I thought it would be easy to refrain from buying beautiful but un-needed items. Alas, it is hard.
Notably, I have not actually bought anything yet that I don’t actually need. My last wardrobe purchases were: a cotton Oasis dress and kohlapurri chappals. That’s it. I haven’t yet worn the dress since it is at home in England and my dad will bring it for me when he arrives in the country. The chappals however, made me fall in love; I seriously needed some open footwear and these beautiful beings were my dreams come true.
Right now, I don’t need any new clothes. I have everything I need.